You have done the research and decided you want to homeschool your kids. But, your husband (or possibly, wife) isn’t on board with it. What do you do? How do you move forward? Here are 4 tips on what to do when your spouse doesn’t agree with homeschooling.
This is the first and most important thing to do. Talk with God about your heart and frustrations. Ask Him for wisdom and direction. He will lead you and guide you. Remember, you are a team and you want to be unified, especially in big decisions like homeschooling.
Ask God to change your hearts toward unity. Ask Him to reveal truths to both of you. Go to God together about His will. See how God moves.
Sometimes this is the hardest part. But, do not move forward until your spouse is on board with you. As you pray, wait on the Lord. You and your spouse both need to be on the same page. This is a big family decision that involves way more than the education of your children.
As you wait, know that the Lord has a perfect timing. If your kids are already in public school, don’t worry. Whatever your reasons are for wanting to homeschool instead, God knows and is sovereign over all. If your kids are not yet in school, pursue all options available to you as you wait and pray.
Many times when deciding about homeschooling, you, as the mom and most likely the primary educator, are the one who does all the research. You pray, talk with other homeschooling moms, research on the internet, and equip yourself with a good knowledge base about homeschooling. Your excitement grows and suddenly you decide this is what God is calling you to do.
Meanwhile, your husband is caught a little off guard and only knows the stereotypes of homeschooling. He has doubts that your kids will be socialized or able to play sports in high school. He isn’t sure this is what he wants for your kids. All he knows is the public school system in which he grew up.
If this is your situation, lovingly and gently share what you have learned. Don’t flood him with information all at once. But, over time, educate him on what homeschooling is truly about. Let him ask questions. If possible, have him meet with another homeschooling dad.
You could also bring him to a local homeschooling convention if one is close to you. There, he will see what homeschooling is truly about and get some more of his questions answered.
Honor your marriage above all else. Respect your spouse’s misgivings. Trust the Lord. And if your spouse never changes his/her mind, then know that it wasn’t meant to be. Rest in God’s sovereignty and faithfulness.
So, when your spouse doesn’t agree with homeschooling…just wait. Homeschooling is a lifestyle and you won’t want to try to do it alone. Homeschooling is really a huge journey of faith. And it may start with waiting. Your faith muscles will grow. You will see the Lord move in wonderful ways.
Here are some links that may be helpful to you as well:
- 8 Ways to Get Dads Involved in Homeschooling
- 5 Misconceptions about Homeschooling Debunked
- 6 Tips to Equip you for your Homeschooling Journey
- What to Expect at a Homeschool Convention
I’m praying for you! Know that you are not alone. If you have any questions, please feel free to email me at firstname.lastname@example.org or leave a comment below. I will be sure to get back to you quickly.